What men mean when they talk about their “crazy” ex-girlfriend is often that she was someone who cried a lot, or texted too often, or had an eating disorder, or wanted too much/too little sex, or generally felt anything beyond the realm of emotionally undemanding agreement. That does not make these women crazy. That makes those women human beings, who have flaws, and emotional weak spots. However, deciding that any behavior that he does not like must be insane– well, that does make a man a jerk.

And when men do this on a regular basis, remember that, if you are a woman, you are not the exception. You are not so cool and fabulous and levelheaded that they will totally get where you are coming from when you show emotions other than “pleasant agreement.”

When men say “most women are crazy, but not you, you’re so cool” the subtext is not, “I love you, be the mother to my children.” The subtext is “do not step out of line, here.” If you get close enough to the men who say things like this, eventually, you will do something that they do not find pleasant. They will decide you are crazy, because this is something they have already decided about women in general.

Lady, You Really Aren’t “Crazy”  (via chromefoam)

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Unemployment, a haiku

90skidandcompany:

Hi, I am Patrick

Just got my college degree

No one will hire me

Hi Patrick.

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Everything will be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end.

John Lennon (via jiatherockstar)

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I hope everything really happens for a reason.

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Is someone willing to give me 30,000 dollars?

Please, I need it so desperately. My dreams will come true if I can just get ahold of some scholarship or something. 

I hope you see it and you wonder what happened.

I hope you turn to your parents and say, “How did she do that?” And then I hope you look it up online and silently wow. And I hope, in your mind, you take back everything you said to me. Maybe you’ll even call, but I doubt it. I just hope you realize you were wrong, and those hours on the phone were wrong, and those insults were wrong, and that no matter how many times you tried to get me to stop, I didn’t. 

I just…I can’t even…

I’m so happy and ecstatic and just…ahh…and my head hurts real bad so this kind of sucks…but I just feel like finally I worked for something and it paid off. It sounds so gay, but I’m just really proud of myself that I pulled this off considering two years ago I didn’t even care about going to college. And I feel bad about even putting this online, because I feel like I’m bragging. But I just think that in my mind I needed this to remind me that I was good enough to go far in life, and by getting it I realized that I didn’t even need it in the first place. Just learning that makes me really happy and puts me at peace. 

:)

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